Choose Kind 選擇仁慈

 |2019.12.29
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有的人自認正義化身,總是用最高道德標準要求別人;有的人仗恃自己的經驗學識,動不動就嚴詞苛責後輩……這麼做,都忽略了「保留一顆寬容之心」的基本做人態度;待人處事,應該「選擇仁慈」,和善待人、必有福報。

摘要

Every once in a while, a book comes along that is more than just a good story from a talented author, but a truly remarkable work that has the power to change the lives of the people who read it.

R.J. Palacio's bestselling middle-grade novel about a brave young boy with facial deformities and his first year at a mainstream school is one such work. The book that inspired the Choose Kind anti-bullying movement, Wonder is now also a major motion picture.

If you haven't gotten around to reading it yourself, these Wonder book quotes will show you why this story has inspired an entire generation of readers to Choose Kind.

1. It's not enough to be friendly. You have to be a friend.

2. When given the choice between being right and being kind, choose kind.

3. Courage;Kindness;Friendship;Character. These are the qualities that define us as human beings, and propel us, on occasion, to greatness.

4. The things we do outlast our mortality. The things we do are like monuments that people build to honor heroes after they've died. They're like the pyramids that the Egyptians built to honor the pharaohs. Only instead of being made of stone, they're made out of the memories people have of you.

5. A fresh start gives us the chance to reflect on the past, weigh the things we've done, and apply what we've learned from those things to the future. If we don't examine the past, we don't learn from it.

6. Learning who you are is what you are here to do.

7. The best way to measure how much you've grown isn't by inches or the number of laps you can now run around the track, or even your grade point average — though those things are surely important. It's what you've done with your time, how you've chosen to spend your days, and whom you've touched this year. That, to me, is the greatest measure of success.

8. I think there should be a rule that everyone in the world should get a standing ovation at least once in their lives.

解說

偶爾,會有一本好書問世,不僅是才華橫溢作家的故事,而是一部真正的傑作,讓人能夠閱讀後改變生活。

帕拉西奧(R.J. Palacio Palacio)的暢銷小說《 Wonder》,敘述面部畸形小男孩,勇敢的離開家中舒適圈到一般學校承受眾人的目光,就是一部這樣的作品;鼓勵「選擇仁慈」(Choose Kind)對抗欺凌的舉動,好萊塢兩年前也拍成電影《奇蹟男孩》。

如果您還沒看過這本書,那麼這些摘錄自《 Wonder》書中的字句,將足以說明,何以這個故事激發了整個世代的讀者,選擇仁慈:

1.光是友善還不夠,你必須是個朋友。(「friendly」的友善可能只是對點頭之交的禮貌舉動;但是當個「friend」,則是要付出關心、 禍福與共的朋友。)

2.當必須在「正確」與「仁慈」之間做出選擇時,選擇「仁慈」。(原因很簡單:「正確」是不變的準則,有時會顯得冰冷、 不近人情;「仁慈」是心存善念、 替人設想。)

3.勇氣;仁慈;友誼;品格。這些是定義我們身為人類的特質,而且,有時候會激勵我們奮發向上。

4.我們的所作所為,不會跟隨肉身一起消逝。我們的言行舉止,就如同人們為了紀念捨生取義的英雄建造的紀念碑。就像埃及人為紀念法老而建造的金字塔,只不過,這些言行不刻在石頭上,而是留在人們對你的記憶中。

5.全新的開始讓我們有機會反思過去,權衡對錯,並將從這些事情裡學到的知識,應用到未來的作為;如果我們不回顧過去,就不會從中記取教訓。

6.了解自己到底是個什麼樣的人,就是你此時此刻應該做的事。

7.衡量自己成長的最好方法,不是檢查高了幾英寸或現在可以在賽道上跑幾圈,甚至不是考試的平均成績,(儘管可以肯定,這些的確很重要)。衡量成長的方法,是對時間的利用、 選擇什麼樣的方式度過一天,還有這一年都接觸過哪些人。對我而言,這才是決定成功的標準。

8.我認為應該要有一條規則,讓世上的每個人,一生中至少有一次能感受眾人對他起立鼓掌。

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